Yesterday I was at an O.T office with a child that i babysitt for. After she went in I was in the sitting area and I over heard a conversation that was going on in the waiting room that I thought would be in intrest to the rest of you! A mother was on the phone speaking to another person and telling them about her 12 year old daughter ( who by the way was in the room as well ). She began shouting on the phone saying how shes convinced her 12 year old daughter is doing drugs and how she got expelled from school after being caught in the bathroom drinking with 3 other girls. The child you can tell was mortified because she knew everyone in the room an hear and the mother didnt care. She kept going on and on saying how shes never home and shes always at their neighbors house and she swears that shes pregnat and if she isnt shes going to be. What drew me to this conversation was that the daughter was sitting there holding her chain in her hand of a girl that looked just liked her, i assumed it was her twin and she just kept crying, the more she cried the more her mother spoke louder. When she hung up the phone she turned to the girl and began shouting at her and saying how disapointed she was in her and how she didnt bring her up that way and the next thing she said made my heart break. The mother began crying and shouting " IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN YOU WHO DIED NOT LEXII YOU!" The girl turned white and jumped up and shouted YOU DID THIS TO ME, YOU CONSTANTLY COMPARE ME TO LEXI ! ITS NOT MY FAULT SHE HAD CANCER EVER SINCE SHE DIED YOU TURNED ME AWAY, YOU MADE ME DO THIS." Soon after that security came and both mother and daugther were escorted out but I just wanted to reach out to that little girl because she was right. A parent doesnt have to be doing drugs to influence a child to rely on the drugs but actions also hurt and so does silence. This little girl was faced with guilt and pain and frankly I feel like its her mother to blame!
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wow!! thats crazy!!! i feel like the child may have turned to drinking and possible druges because it makes her num! in other word she wont feel the unwated feeling . and the mother never being home allow the child to have an oppertunity to drink and other thing because there is no supervision nore compassion from the parent..... the child seem to be carring a birdin and didnt know how to deal with it because she didnt have the out-let/ help to do so ..
ReplyDeleteOMG ange this is terrible .. reading this just broke my heart .. of course its the mothers fault omg that is so horrible
ReplyDeleteThis is sad. Ithink this mother and her daugther need help. I hope every body who read articles like this one learn something. One thing is clear in this article "the mother and her daugther have a bad relationship". There are no communication between them. Another very important point in this article is that we as parents make the big mistakes when we compare our children with others. Think about the frustration or pain that you as a parent provoke to your child when is compared with somebody that is better than him/her. I remember that my brother used to tell me "I know you are my mother's best child and I am the black sheep". He said that he believes he was bad and the black sheep in family , an those comments developed a very low selfstem.Our feelings are hurt when we are compare with other people. Are you a mother? think about your feelings when you heard something negative about our children. So the same way no body like to be compare. It bring low self steem, lack of communication and what is worse it also make people to look for other kind of scape such drugs or alcohol.
ReplyDeletewow this blog is very strong. it is obvious that the mother and child dont get along. i cant even imagine how embarrased the child was in a public place and listening to her mother yelling the way she probably was. me as a parent would never yell at my daughter or tell her things that will hurt her
ReplyDeleteI know it was very horrifying to witness and the way the mother was so closed minded was distgusting. Parents need to realize that their actions can be critical to their children!
ReplyDeleteDAMN!!!! thats crazy. Wow i can't believe what i just read. I feel that the mother is to take blame in this situation. The mother should show her daughter that it isnt her fault that her sister died and that she loves her very much. She should also know that its hard on her daughter & she is going to need help to get through this hard time in her life. They are both going to need each other more then ever during this hard time.
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